Anthology

The old, the sappy, the happy and hopeful poems of my youth to the present.

Masks
By Shel Silverstein, Everything On It

She had blue skin,
And so did he.
He kept it hid
And so did she.
They searched for blue
Their whole life through,
Then passed right by-
And never knew.

Dream Deferred
By Langston Hughes

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
Like a raisin in the sun?

Or fester like a sore--
And then run?

Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over--
like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

If I Can Stop One Heart from Breaking

By Emily Dickinson

If I can stop one heart
from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;

If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,

Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,

I shall not live in vain.

Quotes

"And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good." - John Steinbeck, East of Eden

"That's why I'm talking to you. You are one of the rare people who can separate your observation from your preconception. You see what is, where most people see what they expect." - John Steinbeck, East of Eden

"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable." - C. S. Lewis, The Four Loves

"I asked them to describe their world as it was and as they would like it to be. It was a simple exercise I'd done many times, a way for people to bridge the reality of their communities and their lives with the things they could conceivably change." - Barack Obama, A Promised Land

"Jesus is not trigger-happy. Not harsh, reactionary, easily exasperated. He is the most understanding person in the universe." - Dane C. Ortlund, Gentle and Lowly

"He found himself understanding the wearisome of this life, where every path was an improvisation and a considerable part of one's waking life was spent watching one's feet." - William Golding, Lord of the Flies

January 2021

It's a season of changes and beginnings, and I've been forming old habits to offset the new year. 

Currently Reading: Two books, and then some. First, I recently finished "How to Communicate," a psychological self-help guide that explains common blind spots in the individual and provides helpful tools for successful communication in close relationships. Second, I am midway through A Promised Land. It is like a juicier, detail-packed and intimate account of Becoming. I have to say, President Obama writes his biographies in a way that is coherent and articulate; it's always easy to follow and refreshingly honest.

The "and then some" refers to the countless books I've started, but not yet finished. I have dipped my toes in "Democracy in America" (been wanting to read this one for a while), Gentle and Lowly (highly recommended by a speaker I admire), and my guilty pleasure -- High Fidelity.

Reading has been one of my great joys as of late. I like lighting a woody candle, turning on soft background music, and curling up into bed with a good book. It makes me feel like life is simple and enjoyable again. Sometimes, it's nice to escape from our own thoughts. 

Currently Listening: I've been listening to music every day lately. It's necessary to have a good playlist when working from home. I have a playlist titled "Places We Don't Walk" (yes, nod to Bruno Major -- although the compilation is not entirely in his realm or music genre, it's a good starter for the soundtrack). This playlist is a closer look into my thoughts, my mood, my zone. I'm listening to it now, and I already feel toned down -- in the best way possible.

Quote of the day: "I asked them to describe their world as it was and as they would like it to be. It was a simple exercise I'd done many times, a way for people to bridge the reality of their communities and their lives with the things they could conceivably change." - A Promised Land, Barack Obama, 2020

Until next time.

Where Are We Now

If you’re wondering how time affected us, I can say it’s blurred the memories but I’m still haunted by my feelings every now and then. I ache, I long for, I reminisce... and I carry on. It’s a heavy thing to carry. The burdens of my regrets and wishes that never came true. I long to know myself better. For all of us.

300 Movies in 2020 (extending to 2021... yikes.)

*Ones I liked

Watched:

1. Parasite* -- this was a must-watch. 
2. The Marriage Story* -- an intimate look into the realities and heartaches of marriage and its eventual fall.
3. The Report* -- one of my favorite drama/political movies of last year. I mean, Adam Driver. 
4. Joker
5. Train to Busan* -- I'm awfully late to this one. But nonetheless, I get why it's a top box office. Almost an unbelievably five-star cast.
6. Okja
7. Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker
8. Hustlers
9. Frozen II
10. 6 Underground (Netflix)
11. Burning* -- definitely not for all tastes, but a slow burning plot through an art house lens. An incredibly captivating cast - with the exception of one (Yeun -- to be frank, I did not find his portrayal of his character too convincing).
12. The Farewell
13. Little Women
14. Ford v. Ferrari
15. Soul
16. Mirani* If you did not enjoy Yeun's performance in Burning, but want to give it another shot -- try Minari. A raw, inclusive lens into the Korean American's immigrant's story in the 80s. Not cliche, and has an appreciative dose of humor and wit. 

Currently Watching:

1. Lord of the Rings
2. The Irishman
3. The Godfather

To watch:

1. 2001: A Space Odyssey
2. American Beauty
3. The Suspect
4. Midsommar
5. Uncut Gems
6. Jojo Rabbit
7. Booksmart 
8. Bombshell 
9. Dolemite is My Name
10. 1982 Kim Ji Young
11. The Host 
12. Extreme Job
13. Along with the Gods
14. Memories of Murder 
15. Snowpiercer 
16. The Handmaiden 
17. New World
18. Secretly Greatly
19. Mother
20. Old Boy
21. Forgotten
22. Babel
23. The Usual Suspects (NYFA)
24. The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
25. The DaVinci Code
26. Her 
27. Get Out 
28. The Girl on the Train
29. The Pianist 
30. The Post
31. Prisoners
32. Swiss Army Man 
33. Punch Drunk Love 
34. Into the Wild
35. Beautiful Boy 
36. Searching
37. Kramer vs. Kramer
38. The Godfather II
39. Shindler's List
40. Silence of the Lambs
41. Braveheart
42. Chicago
43. Green Book
44. Moonlight 
45. Birdman
46. The King's Speech
47. Le Mis
48. Hunchback of Notre Dame
49. Citizen Kane
50. Casablanca
51. Psycho
52. The Graduate
53. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
54. Life is Beautiful
55. Memento
56. The Godfather
57. Jaws
58. Back to the Future
59. Robocop
60. Scent of a Woman
61. Pulp Fiction
62. Goodwill Hunting
63. Ghostbusters
64. Cast Away
65. Taxi
66. Inglorious Basterds (Netflix)
67. Boyz N The Hood
68. West Side Story
69. Gran Torino (NYFA)
70. The Vow
71. Hidden Figures
72. Nausicaa Valley of the Wind
73. Green Book
74. Once
75. Burlesque
76. Mid 90s
77. A Guide to Recognizing Your Saints (NYFA)
78. A Scanner Darkly
79. Chef
80. Goodnight Good Luck
81. Tropic Thunder
82. Bernie
83. Little Miss Sunshine
84. Dallas Buyer Club
85. Blow
86. Weird Science
87. Home for the Holidays
88. Kiss Kiss Bang Bang
89. The Favourite
90. The Game
91. The Theory of Everything
92. An Education 
93. Lion
94. Like Crazy
95. The Birdcage 
96. The Love Punch 
97. Doubt 
98. The Prestige
99. Tootsie 
100. August Rush
101. The Next 3 Days

A New Wave: Ethical Fashion

An article I wrote for The Selected.

For decades, the fast-fashion phenomenon has dominated the global consumer market with cost-friendly and quickly overturned trends. Not surprisingly, there is an overwhelming surplus of unworn clothing everywhere – and this number only continues to grow. Regretful consumer choices, impulsive purchases, and the lure of sale item advertisements contribute to the culture of a fast-fashion marketplace.The $24.99 cost of a cheaply-made, Peter Pan collared shirt seems hardly burdensome at the time of purchase, but reality strikes when it is packed up and routed to Goodwill just 6 months later. For clothing that is worn just once or twice then tossed, where is the ethical limit? In recent years, a growing number of consumers have shown interest in sustainable awareness, and many are looking to switch gears to more long-lasting, durable fashion in their closets. Now, a new wave of ethical fashion is on the rise – and here is our breakdown for a more sustainable world of fashion.

 

Level One: Start where you are.
Take care of the clothes already in the closet. This is perhaps the climax of ethical fashion – because long-term sustainability is directly linked with proper care. Showing careful concern for already-produced items gives it its maximum life in your closet.

Level Two: Shop less. Choose better. (Only buy pieces you love 100%).

This is perhaps the most difficult one. Personally, I admired bloggers who made smart, quality purchases and supported ethical brands, but assumed the lifestyle to be too expensive for a (then full-time student) gal like me. What I failed to realize, however, is that purchasing more in quantity of cheaply-made clothing in contrast to buying fewer but of quality items is less effective, and often more costly in the long run. Check out this scenario: You visit the mall (claiming retail therapy) and spend $100 on 5 items from Store H.

1. You wear the $19.90 swimsuit to the beach, but the padding falls out and becomes irretrievable.
2. The $7.99 denim jeans you put in the dryer comes out two sizes smaller.
3. You go out wearing a set of $5.80 earrings, and lose the left pair.
4. The $2.80 ring turns your finger green.
5. You save the $58.00 fur coat to wear in the winter, but unfortunately it’s only May.*

*To be fair, it was on Final Sale.

Six months later, you don’t recall any of these purchases because they are all either lost or un-wearable. Whatever is left of the purchase gets shoved in the back of the closet, or in a donation bag to Goodwill.

Honestly, this scenario isn’t foreign for most of us. We’ve regretfully purchased smaller sizes on sale, vowing to one day fit in to those ultra-skinny jeans. We’ve had clothes shrink in the dryer, beads fall out, and strings come loose. Most often with low-quality clothing, the hassle of mending, fixing, and replacing heavily outweighs the benefits of spending a few bucks “less” in the moment.

 

Thus, the key to sustainable fashion is to 1) shop less and 2) choose better. Buy with intention, thought, and love. Only purchase items you 100% love, not chosen because of menial factors such as sales, discounts, trendy (for a minute), etc. Your closet is a life-long investment, and items that slip away after a short while gains you no interest or profit in the long-run.
 

Buy with intention, thought, and love.

Level Three: Buy second-hand. Upcycle.

My solution to maintaining style and closet sustainability is thrift shops. Second-hand, consignment stores are incredible gold mines with rare vintage, modern, and stylish gems everywhere. Products are a fraction of the retail price, which allows customers to choose items without considering luring variants such as sales and seasonal promotions. Select thrift shops also guarantee style and quality: Wasteland, Crossroads, and Buffalo Exchange. For true discounts, visit the local Goodwill or Salvation Army.

Fast-fashion has owned the spotlight for decades, but in recent years, sustainability-savvy consumers are growing more alert and aware than ever before. Splitting ways from cheaply-made, low quality products, consumers entering a new wave of ethical fashion is planting roots in the fashion industry. These essential steps toward a more sustainable closet is to 1) Start where you are, 2) Shop less and choose better, and 3) Buy second-hand and upcycle. By adhering to the standards of ethical fashion, it creates lasting and impactful change in the current and future world of fashion.

 

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A Garden in the City

 

Missing New York today. Good memories sprouted here.

Rest In Peace

Sweet baby.

Walden by Henry David Thoreau

“It is desirable that a man be clad so simply that he can lay hands on himself in the dark, and that he live in all respects so compactly and preparedly, that, if an enemy take the town, he can, like the old philosopher, walk out the gate empty-handed without anxiety.”

Furniture Inspo

We need a couple tables added to our living room, looking for functionality and design. I'm thinking

1) long bar table w/ bar stools for kitchen/dining table

2) short, small rectangular table for living/tv/sofa area

 

 

Ever Be

Your love is devoted like a ring of solid gold
Like a vow that is tested like a covenant of old
Your love is enduring through the winter rain
And beyond the horizon with mercy for today
Faithful You have been and faithful you will be
You pledge yourself to me and it's why I sing

Your praise will ever be on my lips, ever be on my lips (x4)

You Father the orphan
Your kindness makes us whole
And you shoulder our weakness
And your strength becomes our own

Now you're making me like you
Clothing me in white
Bringing beauty from ashes
For You will have Your bride
Free of all her guilt and rid of all her shame
And known by her true name and it's why I sing

Your praise will ever be on my lips, ever be on my lips (x4)

You will be praised
You will be praised
With angels and saints we sing worthy are You Lord
(x2)

I Like You by Sandol Stoddard Warburg (excerpt)

And I like you because
when I am feeling sad
You don’t always cheer me up right away.
Sometimes it is better to be sad.
You can’t stand the others
being so googly and gaggly every single minute.
You want to think about things.
It takes time.
I like you because if I am mad at you,
Then you are mad at me too.
It’s awful when the other person isn’t.
They are so nice and hoo-hoo
you could just about punch them in the nose.